Kiss that girl, but don’t keep your hopes high

Monday, July 25th, 2022 10:30 | By
A couple kissing. PHOTO/Courtesy
A couple kissing. PHOTO/Courtesy

If you have ever thought of dating a girl, and you are a girl, this is the big sign you needed to dive right in. While men view girls dating as an affront to their sexuality, and others fetishise it, girls dating is just one way the world works. It is not a product of a needy girlfriend trying to score a mate for their low-esteemed boyfriend. Neither is it a collective of women who hate men because they were heartbroken.

If you are thinking of crossing over even momentarily, there are perks to it. First, there is no pressure to perform coitus. Let’s face it, statistics show that less than 10 per cent of all women worldwide achieve orgasm from coitus, and that women in same-sex relationships achieve orgasm more times than women in heterosexual relationships. It also means you get the pleasure of enjoying sex from a person who understands you and is not seeing foreplay as a means to an end, but as an actual means.

Also, women are gorgeous creatures. You can take it from unimpeachable authority that men are made from ‘snakes, and snails and puppy dogs’ tails’ while women are made from ‘sugar and spice, and everything nice.’ It is an easy pick on whom you would choose as a love mate.

Also, you will never have to worry about contraceptives or sneaky men who remove condoms mid-coitus. You can be in a loving relationship without worrying about having a man trap and tame you with a baby.

The only thing you should worry about is getting pregnant with emotion, and expectations of better times to come. While there are plenty of reasons you should date a girl, including the fact that most women are born nurturers and they will probably love you better than any man ever will, do not date a girl because you do not want your heart broken. I am sorry to disappoint you, but pretty girls break girls’ hearts too.

And no, dating a man immediately after her to try and hurt her will not make you feel better. It might not even hurt her. Girls and men cheat. It has more to do with that particular person’s character than with their gender. What I am saying is you should explore your sexuality free from society’s definitions of what is acceptable or unacceptable. Of course, with consensual partners. At the end of the day, sex and who you date are not parameters of who you are as a person. You are free to define who you are. So, by extension, you can redefine it as many times as you want and with whomever you want. Go ahead. Kiss that girl. Or don’t. It is all really up to you. Just do not get arrested.

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