Ways your relationship with your mother changes as you get older 

Monday, May 9th, 2022 09:18 | By

When we are young, we tend to argue and disagree with our mothers. We think we know everything, and we get upset when we don’t get our way. It’s normal. But, as you grow, your relationship with your mum will go through some changes. And she may just become one of your best friends.

You see things clearly

As you get older, you start to understand things better, including your mother. You look back and realise that maybe she was right, or that she just wants what’s best for you. When you understand this, you begin to let the little things go, and accept what she says. She’s just doing her job.

More talking and bonding

As you get older, you’ll realise that not only is it okay to hang out with your mum, but you’ll actually want to do more things with her. Maybe you have a TV show you like to watch together, or you find yourself calling her every night just to tell her about your day. Mums are there to be friends, too! Talk about your boyfriend or girlfriend, have a spa day, go shopping, or watch a movie together. Ask questions about her childhood and learn how she became the woman she is today. You’ll realise you two are more alike than you thought.

You’ll miss her more

As a teenager, you couldn’t wait to get out of the house and make your own decisions. You couldn’t wait to go to college and be by independent. But moving out of the nest can strengthen your relationship with your mother because you won’t be around her every day. When you do finally have that distance, you realise you miss your mum, her hugs, her cooking, and even her unsolicited advice. Going home becomes something to look forward to.

You finally listen to her advice

When you were younger, you didn’t want to hear anything your mum said. You were certain she couldn’t relate, and you definitely didn’t want to accept that she was right. You just wanted to do what you wanted. But as you get older, you begin to think, “Okay, maybe this woman knows what she’s talking about.” Not only do you listen to her advice now, you ask for it.

You become more honest

As your relationship with your mother grows, you realise you don’t have to lie. You feel you can be open and honest. Your real-world problems become more, well, real. And you know she can help you navigate them. As you understand your mother and your relationship with her more, you mature. You know you can be honest about the things you are dealing with and she won’t treat you like a child (even though you will always be her baby)!

You will want to help her

As you get older, you also start to realise how much your mother does for you. How did she manage this all these years? You start to appreciate her more, offer assistance, and say “thank you.” This is the time when you hear people saying, “I’m going to build my mum a house one day.” We all want our mothers to rest and let us take over for once to show our appreciation for everything she’s done for us.

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