How to deal with campo heartbreaks
There’s nothing sweeter in campus life than the first days you fall in love. It will be so easy to identify a relationship that’s at its infancy. With several trips to each other’s hostel, photoshoots with matching outfits, sharing hoodies and sweatpants, holding hands together while walking and then the most fascinating part is doing introductions to every buddy you meet “huyu ndio mamaa” (This is my wife). You promise each other heaven and vow that hatupangwingwi and no matter what comes, you will never part ways.
It was going to end in marriage and two children whom we already suggested their names. And having this in mind, I was prepared to fight for it till the end. Finding a partner who shared in the same ambitions and tastes was crucial. Well, the chats and call time started reducing and also meeting time became limited. Character development took its course. Little did I know that nimepangwa. I thought of wallowing after the heartbreak but big boys don’t cry. My biggest worry was breaking the news to my mbogi that we are no longer together. We were serving couple goals and everyone wanted to be like us. It ended in premium tears. Should one find themselves in such situation, this is the therapy derived from my personal experiences as a young former heartbroken chap:
Don’t jump into another relationship immediately
Most peeps view it as a solution to heal faster when they move immediately to the next relationship, as they are desperately looking for consolation. This is so dangerous. It is advisable to sober up first, as this will help you make great decisions with a proper mind. There is a higher probability of your next relationship being toxic if you jump into it without a clear mind. In most cases, it might not be true love but just a cover-up relationship.
Avoid the exes
As the wise men say, it is a risky venture to intervene in solving a problem between lovers. Once they get back together, you turn to be their adversary. A couple may just break up for some days and then make up again. As such, stay away from your exes and places you frequented before, since it will bring back the memories.
Do new things
The freedom that comes with campo life gives comrades more time to get idle and this is where things go wrong. Most couples in campo spend time together while not having classes. After breaking up, they find it hard to adapt to the new life and if one doesn’t find something productive to do, they end up going back to that relationship no matter how toxic it was. Maybe you should try things like travelling, nature walks, writting or joining clubs.
