My boyfriend snubbed me on Valentine’s Day
Hi Achokis,
I’ve been going out with this guy for the last three years. On Valentine’s Day, he only sent me a note, but didn’t take me out as we always have.
When I confronted him, he told me that he was broke and that’s why we were not going out. He got upset and hung up on me. We haven’t talked the whole weekend.
I am afraid to lose him, yet don’t want to reach out to him because I believe he’s the one who should reach out to me. Am I expecting too much from this guy? Please give me some advice!
Our take
Thanks for seeking advice. Valentine’s season can come along with it’s own pressures. Unfortunately we want to judge one’s love based on that single day.
You say last three years you have been together he has been taking you out. So, if he didn’t do it this year, it is possible that what he is telling you is true.
After all, we want to believe that apart from Valentine’s Day, he does take you out whenever he can.
You need to give him benefit of doubt and also try to understand his situation. When a guy wants to do something and is not able to, it frustrates him and that could be the reason he hung up on you.
The hurt and being broke brewed together can be something for a guy and that could have led him into his cave, hence the silence.
No man wants to disappoint his woman and when he feels like he has done exactly that it sucks.
We see no reason why you shouldn’t reach out to him. Maybe when he hears your voice and you reassure him that you still believe in him that will cheer him up.
By expressing your feelings and seeking to understand him, might just turn him around.
We all want to be understood, but rarely go out of our way to try and understand others. Seeking first to understand others then to be understood is a great key to successful relationships.
At a later date, talk to him about being truthful. If this is a serious relationship then he should have communicated early enough when he sensed that things were not good.
We are sure he wants to impress you and was hopeful to the end, but keeping quiet and calling you is hurting because your expectations are dashed.
Who knows if he would have communicated maybe you would have paid for the dinner yourself? If you are headed for marriage, this is what it’s all about, helping each other out, not just one partner suffering.
You might think reaching out to him is cheapening yourself as a lady, but if you really value him and don’t want to lose him then call him.
As much as men are known to be the ones to pursue, there’s no harm once in a while to also pursue.
